Episode 249

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8th May 2025

Parenting Against the Grain: The Agile Approach with Bia Demofsky (Part 2)

In this episode, Kim Olver welcomes back author and Agile coach Bia Demofsky in a powerful continuation of last week's conversation to explore how she applies professional Agile principles to parenting in an intentional, iterative way. In Agile Parenting, Bia shares how her decade-long struggle with infertility shaped her reverence for parenting—and how that perspective led her to reject mainstream trends in favor of meaningful connection, structure, and flexibility with her daughter.

Together, Kim and Bia unpack:

  • Why Agile methodology isn’t just for software teams—it can be a powerful framework for raising children
  • How to parent "against the grain" with confidence, even when it goes against public opinion
  • The critical role of parent-to-parent communities in supporting intentional parenting
  • Practical ways to limit technology use early—and why it matters
  • The importance of modeling emotional intelligence, accountability, and collaboration for kids

This episode is a must-listen for parents craving deeper relationships with their children and the courage to raise them with purpose in today’s chaotic world.

To listen to part 1 of this interview, click here. Grab Bia’s book Agile Parenting on Amazon and explore her parenting workbook and framework. You can also connect with Bia at https://agileparenting.org.

Next week, Kim continues the parenting conversation with Ashley Patrick to discuss raising neurodivergent children. Subscribe so you don’t miss it!

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About the Podcast

Life = Choices; Choices = Life
Making better choices for a better life
Life = Choices; Choices = Life is about learning to replace external control psychology with radical responsibility and appreciation so you can make better choices to create the life you want to have. Kim Olver is a leading expert in Choice Theory™ psychology and will share what she has gleaned from the legendary work of Dr. William Glasser, as well as sharing her unique perspective based on over 30 years of study and research.

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Kim Olver

Kim Olver's mission is to help people make better choices for a better life. She is a licensed clinical professional counselor, a nationally certified counselor and a board certified coach. She is a world renowned expert in Choice Theory™ , a highly sought after international speaker and an award-winning author. Her books include: Leveraging Diversity at Work with Sylvester Baugh (2006), Secrets of Happy Couples (2010), Choosing Me Now (2019) and A Choice Theory Guide to Relationships (2019). Kim is currently working on the forthcoming books, The Definitive Guide to Coaching and Radical Responsibility and Appreciation. Kim is the author of The Relationship Center blog; creator of Empowerment Parenting, a 25-hour parenting curriculum for court-mandated parents; and owner of Academy of Choice, a BCC (Board Certified Coach) Coaching Program. Kim worked five years as a counselor for schizophrenics in a community-based residential program, 17 years holding various positions with a specialized foster care agency, was Executive Director of Glasser Institute for Choice Theory for nine years and the Executive Director for William Glasser International for eight; and began her own company, Coaching for Excellence, in 2005. She is a model of what she teaches about taking responsibility for the things she can influence and control and finding appreciation for those things she can't. Kim believes radical responsibility and appreciation are the keys to a happy, peaceful, satisfying life.