Episode 42

Published on:

29th Oct 2020

If I Know I Can Only Control My Behavior, Why Do I Keep Trying to Control Everybody Else's?

In this episode, Kim interviews Choice Theory enthusiast, Sheryl Matwijkiw, from Australia. Most people realize the only person's behavior they can control is their own; that is painstakingly obvious. And yet, we spend most of our days trying to control the behaviors of others. No one is immune--we do this with our friends, co-workers, children, parents and spouses. This behavior typically has two unintended effects. First, it causes the person you are trying to change to double down and dig in deeper with the unwanted behavior and second, it drives a wedge between you and the other person. No one likes to be controlled, nor do they like to learn they are a disappointment. Kim and Sheryl talk about developing a mindset to help you avoid this dangerous behavior.

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Life = Choices; Choices = Life
Making better choices for a better life
Life = Choices; Choices = Life is about learning to replace external control psychology with radical responsibility and appreciation so you can make better choices to create the life you want to have. Kim Olver is a leading expert in Choice Theory™ psychology and will share what she has gleaned from the legendary work of Dr. William Glasser, as well as sharing her unique perspective based on over 30 years of study and research.

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Kim Olver

Kim Olver's mission is to help people make better choices for a better life. She is a licensed clinical professional counselor, a nationally certified counselor and a board certified coach. She is a world renowned expert in Choice Theory™ , a highly sought after international speaker and an award-winning author. Her books include: Leveraging Diversity at Work with Sylvester Baugh (2006), Secrets of Happy Couples (2010), Choosing Me Now (2019) and A Choice Theory Guide to Relationships (2019). Kim is currently working on the forthcoming books, The Definitive Guide to Coaching and Radical Responsibility and Appreciation. Kim is the author of The Relationship Center blog; creator of Empowerment Parenting, a 25-hour parenting curriculum for court-mandated parents; and owner of Academy of Choice, a BCC (Board Certified Coach) Coaching Program. Kim worked five years as a counselor for schizophrenics in a community-based residential program, 17 years holding various positions with a specialized foster care agency, was Executive Director of Glasser Institute for Choice Theory for nine years and the Executive Director for William Glasser International for eight; and began her own company, Coaching for Excellence, in 2005. She is a model of what she teaches about taking responsibility for the things she can influence and control and finding appreciation for those things she can't. Kim believes radical responsibility and appreciation are the keys to a happy, peaceful, satisfying life.