Episode 12

Published on:

19th Mar 2020

Flexing Your Parenting Negotiating Muscles

Almost from the time they are conceived, children are involved in an inherent conflict with their parents—parents are trying to keep their children safe, while children are trying to meet their other needs for connection, significance, freedom and joy. Many parents somehow believe negotiating with their children, someone lessens their power but the reverse is true. Parents need to figure out what they want in the long run and develop the patience and willingness to give up what they want right now, in favor of getting what they really want later. Negotiation is the vehicle to getting there. If you’ve listened to other podcasts, then you know people are driven by their five basic needs. Everyone has these needs. It’s crucial for parents to get their needs met but it’s just as crucial for children to meet theirs. Because they are children, parents can create a challenging environment for children to get their needs met which can lead to two outcomes—an overly compliant child who will do what anyone asks them to do or a rebellious child seeking out unsafe ways to meet their needs. Negotiation is the way through these challenging times. Listen in to learn how. #parenting #parentingtips #kimolver #therelationshipcenter

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Life = Choices; Choices = Life
Making better choices for a better life
Life = Choices; Choices = Life is about learning to replace external control psychology with radical responsibility and appreciation so you can make better choices to create the life you want to have. Kim Olver is a leading expert in Choice Theory™ psychology and will share what she has gleaned from the legendary work of Dr. William Glasser, as well as sharing her unique perspective based on over 30 years of study and research.

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Kim Olver

Kim Olver's mission is to help people make better choices for a better life. She is a licensed clinical professional counselor, a nationally certified counselor and a board certified coach. She is a world renowned expert in Choice Theory™ , a highly sought after international speaker and an award-winning author. Her books include: Leveraging Diversity at Work with Sylvester Baugh (2006), Secrets of Happy Couples (2010), Choosing Me Now (2019) and A Choice Theory Guide to Relationships (2019). Kim is currently working on the forthcoming books, The Definitive Guide to Coaching and Radical Responsibility and Appreciation. Kim is the author of The Relationship Center blog; creator of Empowerment Parenting, a 25-hour parenting curriculum for court-mandated parents; and owner of Academy of Choice, a BCC (Board Certified Coach) Coaching Program. Kim worked five years as a counselor for schizophrenics in a community-based residential program, 17 years holding various positions with a specialized foster care agency, was Executive Director of Glasser Institute for Choice Theory for nine years and the Executive Director for William Glasser International for eight; and began her own company, Coaching for Excellence, in 2005. She is a model of what she teaches about taking responsibility for the things she can influence and control and finding appreciation for those things she can't. Kim believes radical responsibility and appreciation are the keys to a happy, peaceful, satisfying life.